HOW DO YOU SHOW UP?

I'm rarely the smartest, most experienced, most educated person in the room. 

I think a lot of us find ourselves in that position. It's tempting, when placed in a situation where we feel inadequate, to try to overcompensate and prove like we belong at the 'adult table'. 

We have two choices in these situations;

Choice #1 - Show up in an attempt to prove that we're good enough, smart enough, experienced enough, or educated enough to be there, even though in many cases we're not.

or,
Choice #2 - Show up knowing that we don't yet fully belong and use it as an opportunity to learn, ask questions and contribute in an authentic and meaningful way.  

These two choices will bring very different responses;

Choice #1, you'll likely find that others in the group will take some pleasure in knocking you down a few pegs, likely below your actual level of knowledge, experience or intelligence.
or,

Choice #2, you'll likely find that the group will take pleasure in helping you gain the additional knowledge, skills and experience needed to feel like you belong there.  

When we show up to improve ourselves and contribute whatever we can to the group, everyone will want to help us.

"Don't show up to prove. show up to improve."  - Simon Sinek



Choose to Care....

Confidence - paying back or forward.

Throughout life we look to gain confidence, we are in an endless search for confidence.

It is truly amazing, that when we find "our" true confidence, we look for others that are confident and when we find that, we find trust... Interesting ......  I know ... lol..

Think back, quickly throughout your life, of the teacher(s) / people that help you build confidence?

List the name / names..
for me..

My Mom,
Ozzie - (High School Gym Teacher, Coach)
Mr. Fraser - (College / University Dean)
My Uncle Burns
My Wife

Can't remember many other teachers / people ? Usually it is 2 or 3 key people early in life that make a mark and care enough to provide support and ensure you are gaining confidence.

Same for all other areas of your life, who helped / are helping you to gain confidence? How?
Again for me,

My Uncle Ben,
Gordan Graham
Bill Elkington
Paul Poscente

NOW, think of people you have helped? Why? How? Great circle isn't it?

If you are in a managerial role or a mentor-ship position at work or in life, it's as simple as going out of your way to support people in gaining confidence, this can be the backbone for you, in becoming a good leader in your own-right and forming a group that will support each other.

Care enough to support others, they will remember and pay it forward...

Please choose to Care....