BEAR

5 months ago he came into this world, our little baby boy.  "BEAR"

It has taken me awhile to write something about him, not because I couldn't muster the words, but to be honest, just to much to say, too many emotions.

First I will answer the name Question. Everyone who hears his name, kinda gives us a slight "what" grin, then smiles and comments with "that's a unique", "awesome", "cool" name.

We are both connected to the name and have been subconsciously all of our lives.  Deanna's spirit animal is a Bear and the first tattoo I got at 18 was a grizzly bear face, that was a representation at the time of my mother and her many positive traits that resemble the bear....... Many who know me, know what an insane Chicago Bears fan I am, and yes it is cool that it overlaps, however not the reasoning for the name.... 

Regardless it fits him perfectly..... He is a Bear, he is our Little Bear. 

Sure we will add a few more adjectives before his name in the years to come that will be equally fitting...

We love his name and will ensure he grows into it!

------------ When BEAR was born I sent out this email / text.
"Deanna and I are proud to announce that at 11:20pm, May 31st, Day 1 of training camp as begun for Bear Allan Fequet. He has been drafted by DaBears as their Middle Linebacker. At 7lbs8oz he will need to ensure he gains the appropriate amount of weight and form over the next 21 years to ensure his spot on the roster. With that said, we along his brother and sisters, family and friends will be there to support him during these important years."..

Now at 5 months and 20 pounds, he is in the 95 percentile on all levels and on track with his weight and height. We are starting slow with his push ups, however he loves butt raises and leg extensions, and he is making progress each day, slower than I would have hoped but I know my expectations were / are high..... 
Now on the food and rest side of his program, he is mirroring my routine already. He eats every three hours and goes to bed at 7:30pm and wakes up at 4:30am... PERFECT...
Not sure Deanna would agree, because I forgot to mention the two random feedings during the night.
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Having the great pleasure to have another child, especially with Deanna is a true blessing. She has proven to be a great step mother, so I knew she would be amazing Mom, however it's truly overwhelming seeing first hand, her bond with Bear. 
The way they look at each other brings a tear to my eye, the way he melts into her neck and snuggles for dear life, the way his breathing slows down when she holds him and his heart beat races when he sees her, knowing his Mom is back into view. She has created this calm, safe and secure environment around him that allows him to exuded happiness and overall contentedness, this is showcased each time he Smiles. .................. 
I wrote a quote in my original blog years ago...
"Smile before someone else does; Only competition you should always try to win'.
He certainly is winning this competition early in life.

Their are one or two qualities of mine, I hope he develops that will potentially help him along the path of life. 

But if he doesn't, and he is 100% like his Mom, he will be the luckiest boy ever! 

Deanna and I have made the committed to love, care for and support him throughout his life and will be there for him at all cost, but without knowing it, yet, he is the one that is supporting us and making us better.

Bear is young and we don't yet know what he will bring to this world to make it a better place, yet we can see already the charm that pours from him and the halo that hovers above him so bright.

One look into his eyes and you have no doubt that the creator exist and an higher power is looking out for us. 

We Love You Bear!

Family Commitments - MEMO

I wasn't going to post this memo as a blog.

It was a personal memo / note, sent to my staff in-confidence.
However as you may have grasp from my previous post, I tend to be an open & transparent guy, this is part of who I am and I try not to change or dilute this at work. 

Plus, my people asked if they could share with their loved ones and others, and in turn encouraged me to post.

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Folks;

In most cases it will go without saying however it may benefit some and if nothing else it will clarify how I want you to be supported.

As most are aware I have spent a large part of my career at project sites in remote areas, located all over Canada, through this experience I worked for many different types of leaders / companies with varying beliefs and corporate expectations.  I also personally put myself in positions where I thought I would be letting down the team, company, etc., if I left a given project and focused on family priorities / obligations. Now that I look back and in turn look forward, to another chance at raising a young one, I personally have much regret associated to the times I didn’t focus on family first.

So with that said, I want to clarify that I do not expect nor do I want you to miss or sacrifice family responsibilities for work. This includes important family events, birthdays, anniversaries, graduations, vacations, religious ceremonies, etc., as well as for illness or a loss.

Please appreciate I am not mandating anything here; as leaders and individuals you all need to decide what is best for you and your family as well as balancing what’s best for your projects and teams, not an easy task for any of us. However I do express the above from personal experience and with great appreciation for you.

Thank you for your endless commitment to the company and each other, and also for the hard work and passion shown consistently through your actions. I’ve never been prouder to work with such an amazing group of people. You are not only my work colleagues but I see you as friends and I deeply care about you and your family’s well-being.

Sincerely,

Trent Fequet

HOW DO YOU SHOW UP?

I'm rarely the smartest, most experienced, most educated person in the room. 

I think a lot of us find ourselves in that position. It's tempting, when placed in a situation where we feel inadequate, to try to overcompensate and prove like we belong at the 'adult table'. 

We have two choices in these situations;

Choice #1 - Show up in an attempt to prove that we're good enough, smart enough, experienced enough, or educated enough to be there, even though in many cases we're not.

or,
Choice #2 - Show up knowing that we don't yet fully belong and use it as an opportunity to learn, ask questions and contribute in an authentic and meaningful way.  

These two choices will bring very different responses;

Choice #1, you'll likely find that others in the group will take some pleasure in knocking you down a few pegs, likely below your actual level of knowledge, experience or intelligence.
or,

Choice #2, you'll likely find that the group will take pleasure in helping you gain the additional knowledge, skills and experience needed to feel like you belong there.  

When we show up to improve ourselves and contribute whatever we can to the group, everyone will want to help us.

"Don't show up to prove. show up to improve."  - Simon Sinek



Choose to Care....

Confidence - paying back or forward.

Throughout life we look to gain confidence, we are in an endless search for confidence.

It is truly amazing, that when we find "our" true confidence, we look for others that are confident and when we find that, we find trust... Interesting ......  I know ... lol..

Think back, quickly throughout your life, of the teacher(s) / people that help you build confidence?

List the name / names..
for me..

My Mom,
Ozzie - (High School Gym Teacher, Coach)
Mr. Fraser - (College / University Dean)
My Uncle Burns
My Wife

Can't remember many other teachers / people ? Usually it is 2 or 3 key people early in life that make a mark and care enough to provide support and ensure you are gaining confidence.

Same for all other areas of your life, who helped / are helping you to gain confidence? How?
Again for me,

My Uncle Ben,
Gordan Graham
Bill Elkington
Paul Poscente

NOW, think of people you have helped? Why? How? Great circle isn't it?

If you are in a managerial role or a mentor-ship position at work or in life, it's as simple as going out of your way to support people in gaining confidence, this can be the backbone for you, in becoming a good leader in your own-right and forming a group that will support each other.

Care enough to support others, they will remember and pay it forward...

Please choose to Care....

Too Funny # 002

A group of women were at a seminar on how to live in a loving relationship with your husband.

The women were asked, "How many of you love your husband?"

All the women raised their hands.

Then they were asked, "When was the last time you told your husband you loved him?"
Some women answered today, a few yesterday, and some couldn't remember.

The women were then told to take out their cell phones and text their husband:
"I love you, sweetheart."

The women were then told to exchange phones with another person, and to read aloud the text message they received, in response.

Here are some of the replies: 

 1.   Who the hell is this? 

2.   Eh, mother of my children, are you sick or what?

3.   Yeah, and I love you too. What's up with you?? 

4.   What now?  Did you crash the car again?

5.   I don't understand what you mean?

6.   What the f*** did you do now?

7.   ?!?

8.   Don't beat about the bush, just tell me how much you need?

9.   Am I dreaming?

10. If you don't tell me who this message is actually for, someone will die.

11. I thought we agreed you wouldn't drink during the day.

12. Your mother is coming to stay with us, isn't she??

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lol... use this has a opening story at your next meeting board meeting.. lol.

Even try it with at your next company function or event.

"Walk ". - Poetry

I wake up from a nightmare,

I wake up in an unknown place.

Can things be worst?

I am unsure.

I choose,

To walk; I walk from that terrible place,

I walk back into your arms

I walk back into my dreams.

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I am lost out at sea,

I am lost without a compass.

Can things be worst? 

I am unsure.

I choose,

To walk; I walk from that terrible place,

I walk back into your arms

I walk back into my dreams.

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I fall from a mountain top into the valley,

I fall without a rope.

Can things be worst?

I am unsure.

I choose,

To walk; I walk back up the mountain,

I walk with you at my side,

I walk out of my dreams to reality.

I am sure things will be fine!

CARE for someone

The Talent Pool

Has fall is now officially here, we all think about how the summer slipped away too fast!!!

I don't, lol, On the drive to the office on a Sunday Morning at 5 am; I am thinking of the past 10 years within the construction industry and the talent pool situation. --- 

I reflex back on my years up north in the NWT, NU and Yukon, it seemed we never had an issue. Whenever I made calls for crews / key guys; it seemed people were just there!!!

We executed projects all over northern Canada, in remote places that may have been attractive to many of the guys I called upon. They liked the fact that they could leave for 4 to 7 months and then be done, return to the small communities where we were from and enjoy the rest of the year hunting, trapping and fishing. These remote projects certainly had its challenges, but it seemed the people and their character fit the region and visa verses.
As for management, again it always seemed easy, many people wanted that northern Canadian experience. Furthermore our engagement with the diamond industry was very appealing.
Key industry professionals certainly wanted to have these projects on their resume.
Now that I reflect back on the diamond mines, I also would push much of the credit to the clients. They believed in developing a best in class work environment, accommodation and overall awareness of what drives the trade worker and professional. They also were abreast of any indirect conflicts or inconsistency of manpower treatment. Meaning any conflicts and or "viruses" were dealt with promptly.

Once I left the north I went to Fort McMurray in the Oil sands. What do I say about Fort Mac!!!!

With that said, my experience was different from what I heard from many projects / companies.
We went out of our way to secure people that were liked minded and formed a family atmosphere.
I had a few philosophies when recruiting my project team, that I still believe into today; whole heartily.
---- Look for the right Attitude, Character and Skill to fill the team "glass", when in doubt on the individual; hire for their Attitude and Train for lacking skill. If Attitude, Character and Skill come together, hire that individual at all cost. 
Because they are like finding a Panda Bear in the wild, may not see one again for awhile......-- lol

Furthermore, I had the good fortune to work for; probably the best  group / construction company at the time - JV Driver. The President and Owner (Bill Elkington) was by far the best leader I ever come across to that point and yet today for that matter.
This experienced and engagement provided many lessons for how I would led for the rest of my career. He had a very unique and personal way of leading, the trouble with these unique management values, is that they are very hard to support within a group that don't share them. I come to learn it is great if you own the company but trying to bring that fresh and "caring" (truly people focused) management style to a conventional company is nearly impossible.

Over the years I have attracted a great group of key people that have followed me wherever I have asked and now that I have branched out on my own, they are my rock. With that said to grow a company you need to keep attracting key people, but it seems the preverbal "talent pool" is pretty much empty these days. Especially in the West where the industrial / pipeline groups and related clients, consultants and contractors can seemly pay whatever it takes.
The pay (in many cases) certainly does not parallel the level of skills.  I could only assume the Attitudes must have gotten a great deal better???? -- lol


CARE!

"Too Funny". - joke

A guy brings his buddy home for dinner.

His Wife screams; "You asshole! My hair and makeup aren't done, the house is a mess, the dishes aren't done. I am still in my pajamas and I can't be bothered with cooking tonight!!!!! Why the FRIG did you bring him home?"

"Cause he's thinking of getting married."

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I've been TOLD - I am not a REAL blogger.... what?

Hi Folks,

For those of you who enjoy my blogs, Thanks, my audience source has jumped in recent months, even though I haven't written that much. "Outside of my joke stories that I send to readers digest, that never get published"..:-). Regardless, I think they're funny? lol.

Anyhow the topic at hand. I was out for dinner on Friday with Deanna and one of my Project Managers' and his GF from Toronto. First time we met her and she was lovely (wow I am getting old, using the word "lovely"...... where is grandma when you need to steal a word, right. geeeeeeeeeeeee).
It should be noted; She is from Toronto they are opinionated.. lol.. kidding..

Over dinner we enjoyed great conversation, which led to, for some reason or another , my GF brought up my blog. I didn't realize blogs were such a source of reading these days, people read blogs on everything for anything. When I told her what mine was about, (simple way for me to release thoughts and express some beliefs and or opinions).

"She explained how that wasn't a blog and I wasn't a blogger"

Jokingly of course, (I think???).

Her opinion was that personal blogs were more of an everyday type of thing, either for blogging personal happenings and for news, celebrities, etc, etc.
I knew information sources, group chatters, news groups and other such sources did use blogging for that; for me it seems with tweeter, Facebook and even bbm, people can get an update on everyday happenings fairly easy.

With that said, I did start blogging to also get my writing "juices" back (for lack of a better word). It has done that, however with career and other commitments I have not published as many blogs on topics that I would have liked. So maybe I will start using Blogging to form a dairy of sorts. Or maybe not!!!

In this day and age, everything that makes the internet (Cyber world) seems to have a long shelf life. Blogging such things would probably be interesting for family and friends after one has left for Heaven or Hell. (by the way still no clear winner).



CARE

Happy New Year 2013

Wow… I look back at my last post and it was on my birthday in March 2012. Wow

Can’t believe the remainder of 2012 went by so quickly.

I am saddened by the fact; I wasn’t able to write throughout the year. I guess I was able, just didn’t carve out time to do so.

I will commit to doing better this season. With that said; I look back on some of my writing and it seems I needed to unlock / let out some emotional feelings and thoughts that were obviously bottled up. I could easily past off my none writing to the fact that I got these emotion / feelings behind me and writing like always was the final step for me to release.

Let’s say that certainly played a factor, I also had a very busy, and proud to say, successful year. Took time again to really focus on my career goals associated directly back into my construction field and also with my consulting and leadership program.

On the personal front I devoted this year to regaining my personal health and mental well-being. Maybe actually finding it for the first time. lol. And most importantly this year was a year of reconnecting with my children and becoming a dad they could be proud off. (More to come on the kidlets, will provide a blog devoted to them in the weeks to come).  Lastly I was able to find love again in 2012, something I thought was a century or 2 away still… lol..

Anyways, I just wanted to drop in, say hi, and wish you and wonderful New Year.

Promise that I will be more consistent in 2013, focus on some leadership blogs, poetry and ofcourse I will dip back into my emotional and mental obsess. (Just for your entertainment value if nothing else.)

Choose to Care....

Seasonal Poetry

The seasons nudge memories,

Reminders of time gone,

Time that should have been,

Seasons now long gone and lost.

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I spring back and another season seems to shine upon me,

Sweet air moisturize my senses,

The extending sun rise seems to be melting memories away.

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The long weekend opens the gateway to fun,

Season too short, the days never longer,

Impatience for sunlight to disappear.

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I fall back and what seems like another year ends,

Crisp air focuses layers upon us,

With excitement we await the first dusting.

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Like a gift we awake to the greatness that makes us unique,

Season too long, days never shorter,

The dark and cold brighten spirits for a new year ahead.

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These seasons will always remind me,

Remind me of intense and wonderful times,

Time that was,

Seasons revolutionised within me.

Choose to Care....

Collide

Do things and events happen for a reason?

Do 2 people meet because of some divine destiny?

Do the peaks and valleys find us because of our mindset?
Do love ones leave us because of a greater plan?

Do we have one life or many?

Do we fall under the guidance of some master coordinator?

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Or are we all here to simply "Collide" into each other?
Or is this all some cruel joke; meant to develop research data for the betterment of a future, more evolved race?

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Not sure what theory explains this crazy life we lead and world we inhabit.

But, really!!! You gotta admit the cruel joke theory has a little merit.

But "Colliding" is an hell of alot more fun and justifiable.

-- Just Saying---

God Bless !

Choose to Care....

Remembering a Friend

Later this month I celebrate my 37th Birthday. Yet the next day I get to remember one of my best friends; I lost 4 years ago. Reagan Williams (RW below the BUDDIES tattoo on my left wrist).

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He would have been 44 this year, he has left behind a list of accomplishments and memoires within his friends, family and colleagues that will be tough to match by anyone within any lifetime.

The last few years leading up to the accident, we didn't see each other that much, due to our work and personal commitments. He lost his father the previous year and was focusing on the family business, his new family and other things, and I was totally enthralled with a major project and my relationship.

4 years ago he called me on my birthday and of course I was tied up; and didn't call him back, it was a few months since I had heard from him and to be honest I was a little pissed at him for not touching base sooner; funny thing is, later I found out he was pissed at me too, for focusing too much on some personal things in my life at that time and totally disregarding many of my close friends.

(Pissed has 2 good friends can be at each other I guess.)

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I didn't call him back that day, and the next day the opportunity to ever speak with him again was taken from both of us.

I have done many silly things in my life and have a few regrets, needless to say I obviously have much regret around losing my friend and anything and everything around this terrible lost....

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This event totally changed me, I realized that in life, balance is everything. Proper balance of time (wherein you are present) with yourself, with your family, with your partner and also with your friends. We tend to get so busy in life, that we think we can't handle it all, we think we need to drop things out of our lives in order to better handle the remaining stuff.

(I.e, we have kids and a relationship, so we step back from our friends or even our family, or we focus so much on ourselves and friends we step back from family, etc, etc, etc). But once we become balanced and aware that we can't be everything to everyone including ourselves, but we NEED to be something to all, then we lose the anxiety and stress that so tightly hugs us and weighs us down.

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Reagan's death also helped me realize that life is short, you truly have no idea when it may be your time to go, whether an accident or cancer, or whatever. So I offer up that we don't allow our lives to be controlled by things and or others that are not aligned with our goals.

Your life is for you to live (Build) and experience and not for others to control and guide for you. If you are not compatible with a friend, a partner, a work colleague and or family member then don't waste precious time on trying to convince them to live life. Yes have them part of your life has stopping points along the road by not as a travel partner.

They will be and things will be, and nothing you can do will change that and visa versa.
Conversely if they are people that are in the same place as you and have the same outlook, then enjoy the company of others. Enjoy the sweet things in life also, never have regret for making a choice that was right at the time, because you will always get the chance to make another right choice.
More importantly just stop making bad choices, Jesus!! lol.

It is amazing how memories are generated from one mind and lifetimes are celebrated by many minds.
Miss you Buddy!

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"We are all travelers in the wilderness of the world, and the best that we can find in our travels is a true friend." - unknown.

CARE PLEASE!

Debating Quotes Episode #01

Quote A;

"To appreciate heaven, it's good for a person to have some fifteen minutes of hell." - unknown
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I would say firstly, to truly appreciate anything you need to have had and lost it, before you can appreciate it.

As for Heaven and Hell, not sure one place is better or worst than the other (never been there), haven't had any feedback from others either ! :-)

Lets see if I can compare or relate to HEAVEN - HELL.
Noted comparisons are researched topics from the internet.

Origin of Heaven: The sky or the area above the earth where Heavenly Bodies are placed.

Origin of Hell: The area below the Earth's surface or Underground.

-- You who know me, know that I am scared of heights in the worst way and also only fly because I must, for work. When I retire I am driving everywhere.

So not sure the placement of Heaven works for me at this time.

--  Never wanted to be an underground miner, I will stick to any form of surface mining. I could probably get my head around becoming a fossil, that seems to be a cool thing, getting found millions of years later and examined. fun, fun...  

This comparison is too close to call, gonna call this one an even split.
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Heaven is Place of: Happiness & Peace

Hell is Place of: Pain & Punishment

Not much of a selling point for Hell on this one, Heaven wins hands down.

Heaven is 1 up!
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Heaven Climate: Warm and Pleasant

Hell Climate: Hot and Dark

The heat is really bad for my skin, dries it out something fierce. With that said, the more vacations I go on, the more I am enjoying the hot climate and dark nights. So depending on how long I have, I may be ready for some basting.

No clear winner on this one. However, the word Pleasant is always followed by a positive treat.
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Heaven's access to: Good humans after their death

Hell's access to: Bad humans after their death

Can't really comment on this, Depends who is the judge at time of entry. If I had to pick my destiny today however, I am thinking I would be stuck in purgatory, they would need to sort through the details and probably try to get outside advice on the verdict. 

To be safe I am packing Nomex coveralls and a flashlight. 
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Heaven's Ruler: God

Hell's Ruler: Satan

Hope I am not the only one, but if there is a ruler, it would be more fitting in Hell, would think God would be more a coordinator of events?

I hope we silly humans are just playing on words for this one. Kinda be a cruel joke to be a little goodie-two-shoes all our days; only to be welcomed by a ruler.

I seem to be climbing earth's corporate ladder and in tough decision type of roles, I do have an A-type personality and fairly demanding of myself and others. If I had to pick a stronger ruler candidate and mentor I may find a more experienced ruler in Hell; Just Saying......

After very little debate and even less thought it seems Heaven has an advantage at the end of the day. 

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Quote B;

If you love something/someone so very much, give it away.

If it comes back to you, it's yours forever.

If it doesn't, it wasn't yours, to begin with."" --- written by ; Who cares?? lol.
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Unsure about this overused and hopefully not overly practiced QUOTE...

Not sure about you?

But anything I've ever loved and let go wasn't by choice (at least my choice anyway).

Hell, I want back great thoughts the minute I lose them, :-).

God forbid anything or anyone of worth.

You know you are screwed when you need to fall back on a terrible Quote like this to comfort the unfortunate decision you made (or had made for you).

Can you imagine the lives ruined / regrets pondered upon; because of this ridiculous quote.

-- I actually had someone say this to me, lol.. and yes she is wishing she would have just stayed around!!! lol...

We'll get to ego discussions later in my blogging life.

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Choose to Care....

Prequalified Advice from a Bachelor

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dbAp5nphTz4&feature=related

Heard this song a few times on XM, however this morning it got me thinking about a platform for a blog.

I am 60 days away from being single 3 years (not counting / considering a few bumps in the road).

Some say I have turned into a professional bachelor. Some say worst!

It is a great debate isn't it; The line between being single and having a relationship. (we'll get back to this)

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I thought I met my soul mate a few years ago (7 years ago now, if we're concerned about details). It lasted 4 years and took me 2 years to get over. Seriously!

It shook me at my core and totally got me off center for a long time. To say the whole experience made me better, worst, smarter, guarded, selfish, kinder, closed, open.... I don't know! To be honest I really don't care to go back to that place of self examination.

If you are there, get the hell out has promptly has physically and mentally possible. It isn't a place to be hanging around waiting for a revelation... lol... it's a place where no friends come to visit (if they can help it)............. Has effortlessly or trying has it is to get there, it is just as hard or easy to get out.

BUT NOTE; ONLY YOU GO THERE AND ONLY YOU GET YOURSELF BACK OUT.

With that said, this experience combined with everything else has made me look at relationships different; it certainly made me acknowledge what I need and want. I certainly don't jump feet first, yet I know that in life relationship play an important part in someone's happiness. (qualifying that it needs to be the right relationship). With a mix of 2 compatible people.

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Now where do we go from here, do we explore compatibility or do we get back to my first open ended phrase (the line between being single and having a relationship). Or do we go elsewhere?

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hummmmmmmmmmmm.. Ok, first we all can agree that we want to be in a great relationship??? Yes, Yes, We all do! Period.

So like a mouth watering dish that everyone tries to copy, we ask what are the ingredients, what's in this?? (Before I proceed, I must qualify these are my thoughts, no research no polling a million people, so don't hate me when I am done and add judging comments, I will simply delete.. hehehe),.....

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Ok, Ingredients from a part time cook, full time eater!

- You both independently need to be balanced people. (Not explaining balanced, you know what I am shooting for here)

- Each need to be content with yourself (PLEASE Don't lie to yourself about this.... super important). If you are not, don't go swimming! Enough people are drowning already don't need you out there flopping around taking up precious pool space. :-).

If you are content, then you should test a potential mate to ensure they are where they need to be, where you need them to be. PLEASE don't get caught up in the word test, as a negative thing. TEST them, it is potentially the rest of your life partnership we are talking about here. TEST AWAY. Don't apologize!

- Know what you are looking for. Traits. You will never find 100% compatibility, but what's wrong with 80 / 90%, you gotta have a base. Conversely, the things that drive you crazy need to be identified as show stoppers. THEY DON"T GO AWAY. You can not change someone. I will repeat, you can not change someone.

- Attraction; If you think you are a 12 and see the other person as a 8, and or visa versa. It won't work. I won't waste time explaining this to you. If you disagree with this, you are screwed and you are on your own.

- From minute one, day one, minimize the lies. (Everyone lies; it's a fact!) Knowing this is power, portraying this is wisdom. You can and have no choice but have a relationship with lies within it. OK? Move on!!!!!

Now we need to gauge our lies, how minor, how major. Stay away from any and all major lies, once you start you can't stop, once you have planted just one major lie, the trust is lost on both sides, even if the truth is not known by one party.

- TRUST - most Important!!!! Whatever you do, form trust early in the relationship and do whatever you can, do whatever you must!!!! to never, ever, ever loose or fracture that trust.

.... GOOD LUCK....

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Think I am getting off track alittle, sounding like a counselor not a blogger... lol

That's enough so called relationship advice from this aka Professional Bachelor.

lol... I can"t bare to place an image in my mind of what you are all thinking..

"OH God, petty the pour girl that crosses his path".. lol....

All in good fun and hopefully happiness sooner rather than later for us all.

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In reading back, I may have drummed up a few more future blogging topics. Opening old wounds in this blogging environment is alittle tough and humbling. I decided to start blogging to get my writing spirit back, and it as to a certain extent done that.

It has also given me an insight into a possible new form of expression and art, to channel and release some haunting thoughts that the ghost busters haven't been able to assist me with.

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I leave you with a quote from H.P. Liddon.

" What we do on some great occasion will probably depend on what we already are; and what we are will be the result of previous years of self-discipline." --- H.P. Liddon


Choose to Care....

Strangers and Steve Jobs

So the week started off similar to how last week ended. A delayed flight and interesting travel stories..
In the mist of this ongoing frustration I finally found time to grab a copy of Steve Jobs' book!
Trick now is finding time to read it!

Your wondering why I am wasting your time with this.

I often say the best part of travel and life in general are the people you encounter!
With that said, The lady at the book store was a "character" to say the least, without prompt she proceeded to tell me about how great the book was and she herself gave a couple copies for Christmas gifts.

The week prior to our chance encounter she followed up by asking her Dad his thoughts on the book? She was surprised when he noted that "he didn't realize Steve was such a prick".
She then followed by explaining how she probed her Mother on the book as well. Yet she wasn't has surprised when her mom noted; "that Steve Jobs reminded her of her Dad".

Yes, I laughed out loud in the store! Not sure what was better, the story or this interesting and out-going lady!
Regardless another encounter with a stranger that was worth every second!



CARE, enough to meet new people whenever possible.

Birthdays

Some say you only have 1 birthday, the day you were born.

Others say 100, just to set a goal. Good one by the way!!

So do we celebrate our birthdays? Do we let them sneak by so we don't have to face the time gone, it represents?

Not sure, each to his / her own I guess.

I personally take my birthday, has a time to reflect on my Mom, appreciate her for bringing me into this world. My Mom had a few bad experiences from the time she had my sister 4 years previous. She lost another child and and other factors in her life at that time.

So all things being equal she wasn't supposed to try to have anymore children let alone give birth again.

So I thank her for me!

For being her typical unwavering, relentless self. Never taking no for an answer, always fighting the tough times head on with a coat of armor. She is a wonderful, beautiful person that has inspired me to be everything I am today.

So when I think of my birthdays; I think of my Mom and give this day each year to her.

Love you Mom



I choose to Care....

The Beginning of Blogging

So I have found the world of blogging, or is it writing to air / myself in the hopes to get my writing desire / inner spirit back.

"Thanks Friend (LP), for the idea / suggestion, I guess I have alittle inspiration already"

I started a book 3 years ago, while inspired by a relationship, my unique work experience at the time and life in general. However, aspects of the above fell apart, dissolved and harden like sand after a lighting strike.

anyhooooooooooo!!!!! I am sure I will review the above topics in great detail in future blogs, with that said what can I set out for myself in future blogs. Let's see, how about;

1. Relationships... Boy that should be an interesting topic from my point of view.

2. Work, moreso; Leadership. Since this is the platform for my book, I guess I should have a fair amount of thoughts I can translate to blogger language.

3. Inspiration in general, seems like a fair topic??

4. Choices!

5. ?????????

I assume the whole point of a blog is to express thoughts, unravel emotions and debate experiences has they arise?

Again if this blog parallels my actual thoughts, life and emotions and gives you even the slightest insight into my world / mind. I can only imagine the odd reaction I will get from the judges that lurk among us.

"Smile before someone else does; Only competition you should always try to win'.

CARE